The past few weeks have been a time of great personal transformation, from breakdown to breakthrough. Although disorienting, things are shifting powerfully.
I’m trying to stay super connected to my heart to navigate these shifts purposefully, and to ensure that my physical self walks the path my soul has intended.
To do this, I’ve been taking more time away from my desk to recalibrate my connection to self and the universe.
Navigating the journey from breakdowns to breakthroughs is natural, healthy, and important for our soul’s journeys toward self-actualization. How well we navigate our struggles determines how high we rise.
Breakdowns happen when we can no longer tolerate our limited ways of living.
They happen when our souls can no longer tolerate stress of our lives, really the stress of living in dissonance with our desires and dreams.
The breakdown is not the problem. It creates space to create something entirely new… if we’re aware.
With awareness, breakthroughs follow the breakdown. But even if the breakthrough comes, it might not last.
Why is that? Let’s explore.
Why people fail to uplevel on the journey from breakdown to breakthrough
1. It’s common to cling to emotions, ultimately wallowing in them.
It’s easy to judge ourselves for feeling. This judgment is resistance and blocks the flow of emotion, making the process longer, more painful and less effective.
Plus, clinging or wallowing stops the emotions from fully leaving your body and soul. (I talk more about this process in my course about emotions, The Heart and Soul Sessions.)
This means that when peace comes, you don’t let yourself enjoy it because you’re continuing to define yourself by the emotion you experienced in the past.
Just because you felt sad even five minutes ago doesn’t mean you have to continue feeling that way. Emotions are like the weather. They blow in, and then blow out.
And just like the weather, it helps to experience it, grab an umbrella (or box of tissues and Netflix) if necessary, and then enjoy the sun when it shines again.
2. It’s easy to fall back into old habits instead of create new ones.
A lot of my clients have trouble forming new habits and have no idea why.
I help them discover the unconscious reasons change is difficult and create a powerful plan to shift into the positive habits needed to live your destiny.
I’ve done this a lot, too. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve mentally created a boundary while moving from breakdown to breakthrough, decided that I didn’t want to tolerate something anymore, and then in the peace of the breakthrough, sold my soul short and returned to the very same conditions that created the breakdown in the first place.
The lesson will continue until we learn it. Our souls won’t give up on us.
We all have free will and control how fast we evolve through our life’s difficulties. We don’t control what happens to us, but we do control how we respond to those difficulties.
Difficulties are invitations to rise up into a more loving, confident, compassionate, peaceful, empowered version of ourselves.
Accepting the invitation creates a life of joy, freedom and purpose.
RSVP-ing a big fat “no” creates sadness and anxiety, but it’s not because you’re being punished.
Those emotions are only your soul crying out that you desire and deserve more.
How to create lasting change while moving from breakdown to breakthrough.
In your journal, inventory the points of tension that led to the breakdown. Inventory your habits, areas of life where you know you’re not showing up for yourself and unrealized dreams/curiosities.
We all know the exact areas we need to shift. True change happens when, like Elizabeth Gilbert said, we get so tired of our own bullshit that it hurts more than change.
I did this personal inventory over the last few weeks, and realized I wasn’t taking my health seriously enough. Fears over whether I would be successful resulted in me working too much and neglecting self-care.
I noticed that I was no longer engaging in my personal and spiritual development journey for my own benefit, but to share my findings with others, like I wrote about last week.
I wasn’t absorbing the benefits of my efforts because of lingering self-worth issues that stopped me from taking the time to receive them.
In hindsight, it’s obvious how this created conditions for a breakdown. It was a long time in the making, and now I have the great fortune of shifting.
I can’t explain it, but I woke up one morning feeling ready to shift.
I declared to my husband (who has similar tendencies), “I’m not living like this anymore.”
I’m still in the process of rediscovering myself after moving from breakdown to breakthrough, but I’ve already made a few changes.
I’m reading books for pleasure and not purpose. I found a cool cooking blog that features recipes from around the world. I went hiking over the weekend.
I’m planning a few trips (the universe is telling me to go to Italy like woah!), I’m allowing my message to shift more towards spiritual growth and following your dreams rather than focusing only on healing.
A note about that — I still view emotional healing as integral to the growth journey, but I don’t want to focus on that anymore. Part of this shift is internal.
Personally, I’m ready to let the past go in a more complete way and truly focus on making my wild dreams — NY Times bestselling author and one of the world’s best known personal and spiritual growth thought leaders who travels the world and inspires millions with her authentic, soulful writing — come true.
My writing has always been a clear and unfiltered extension of my own journey, and so as I change, my message must change, too. It feels disorienting, but I’m trying to trust the process.
My evolving message, as my new mentor has helped me uncover, is to share my spiritual journey and inspire those who feel conflicted between two tracks — the safe one they’re on and the wild track of their dreams — to jump tracks and follow their hearts because it’s the only thing that will bring lasting peace and happiness.
My job is to help all of you smart, naturally ambitious people live your dreams because we’re here to change the world.
I’ve been feeling this shift for a while, and it’s still integrating. I’m still not fully articulating the shifts. I feel doubtful and uncertain, but just connecting to my heart and taking small, tentative steps forward until the inner seeds now being watered grow big and bold and strong and support equally big, bold movement.
And I share this with you to inspire you that you don’t need all the answers. You don’t need to have anything figured out. The process is the purpose. The growth never ends.
That’s not a failure, but a natural consequence of an awake, alive life. Actually, it’s bizarre not to shift. You’re either growing or dying. Let’s grow, baby!
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All the love,Suzanne
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